Guest Post by Rebecca Poole: Everybody’s Looking For Love

June 5, 2012

Everybody’s looking for love. Everyone craves it.

If we don’t have it, we are depressed or feel like something is wrong with us.

That longing? God put it there.

We are relational beings.

He created us with that desire to be in relationships with Him first of all, to want that more than anything. We have skewed this desire. I think sometimes we try to fit people in that void. It never works. At the end of the day, it will still be there, because people were not meant to fill THAT void, only God can do that.

Its like if a boat had a leak and was taking on water. You could patch the leak with a band-aid. It would slow the flow of water into the boat to a mere trickle. But the boat would still be taking on water. It still would eventually sink.

The boat taking on water? That’s our hearts.

Even if we have a relationship with Jesus, we still try to put other people in His spot in our hearts.

I want to muse that maybe the reason so many relationships with maybe even godly people are falling apart is because of exactly this. “A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” (Ecc. 4:12) The third strand, the center strand, that must be Jesus.

To speak from experience now, I have been a single lady a lot. I, like everyone else, have craved that perfect relationship. I’ve never been on a real date, never been kissed, never had a long-term relationship.

Remembering the knowledge that God wants us to have relationship with one another also, because we are completely relational (Genesis 2), I have realized that I was pulling my hope and longing for closeness away from God and diverting it towards another person. This flat out doesn’t work, and its idolatry – putting someone or something else in God’s rightful spot.

Hearts will always be broken in the end if we try to put that person there. It harms us, it’s not fair to the other person, and it is just plain silly if you think about it.

Max Lucado said, “A woman’s heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek Him just to find her.” This is so wise. So right. (And it goes for the men too.)

When we are letting God fill us, He will completely satisfy. Because he is all that is good, all that is lovely, all that is mighty, perfect, beautiful, that list goes on and on.

When the time comes, ladies and gentlemen, if this is his plan for you, He will bring someone to you. I cannot tell you how many stories I have heard of someone meeting their spouse when they “stopped looking.”

If not, He is still better. End of story.

And isn’t this better? To have the one who wrote love be the author of yours?

Ladies, dance with God for a while.

Men, chase Him.

Patience my friends. Trust the Author. Put Him in his rightful place.


6 Responses to “Guest Post by Rebecca Poole: Everybody’s Looking For Love”

  1. eddiepoole said

    Rebecca, I love seeing you dance with Him. I’m proud of you! Keep dancing!

  2. Leanne Baiely said

    Rebecca, your post was awesome! What insight you have and how clearly you present your thoughts. May the Lord continue to encourage you as you share what He’s put on your heart.

  3. Lynn Hutchinson said

    so many people do not know this..Good Job!!

  4. Jessie said

    Rebecca, I truly enjoy your insight and enthusiasm for him. An article wonderfully written and composed. P.S. I love the pictures. JG

  5. Ryan Scott said

    Well said Rebecca. I pray that Roxi is in love with her creator before finding her match too! You are a light:)

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